How do you know if you want kids? with Keltie Maguire
How do you know if you want to have kids? As far as adulting goes, having children is the biggest commitment a human can make. I mean, you can change careers, sell that condo, move across the planet or even get help in caring for elderly parents…so it’s kind of interesting that there is relatively little dialogue about the decision to have children.
Yes, humanity requires procreation to survive. But at 8 billion souls and counting, the planet isn’t running out of humans any time soon. And there is the very real, very modern conundrum that life is getting more expensive and that many people under the age of 40 are facing less stable, less well paid jobs, a shortage of affordable childcare and housing costs that make owning a home – or even renting a home with an additional bedroom – all but impossible.
One of the cultural shifts I am most hopeful about is that we are, more than ever, encouraged to be who we truly are, to imagine what we want our lives to look like, and make the decisions that are right for us… and not just accept what society says we should do/say/be.
So why does choosing not to have children still feel like it has some stigma attached to it?
I want to acknowledge that there is privilege attached to this conversation: women need to have safety and freedom and access to birth control to allow parenthood to become a choice. What’s more, we need to have the financial security to not require a large family to help secure our livelihood.
For those of us who find ourselves in those fortunate circumstances, how do you make the choice to have kids or not? Some feel that they “just know”…but what if you feel uncertain?
That’s what today’s conversation with my friend Keltie Maguire is all about: Keltie Maguire is a Clarity Coach living in Munich, Germany, who helps women entrepreneurs, freelancers, and professionals to connect with what they truly want in life — and take the steps to realize it.
I’ve known Keltie a long time and feel honoured to have this very vulnerable, honest conversation with her here on the pod, I hope it will serve as a starting point for you in your journey to choosing your path.
About Keltie Maguire:
Keltie Maguire is a Canadian expat and Clarity Coach living in Munich, Germany, who helps women entrepreneurs, freelancers, and professionals to connect with what they truly want in life — and take the steps to realize it.
In speaking openly about her own experience facing uncertainty and ambivalence about whether to have kids — and how she arrived at her decision to embrace a childfree life — Keltie began hearing from countless women who related to her story.
Through 1-on-1 coaching and her workshop, Kids or Childfree?, Keltie now supports others to get clarity on whether motherhood or a childfree path is for them, so they can live a joyful, dynamic, and fulfilling lives — no matter the choice.
On this episode we chat about:
- What the decision to have kids – or not – is really all about
- How the societal expectation to have children can impact our decision making
- How what we see around us influences our decision making
- How do you get clear on what you really want out of life?
- The power of allowing yourself to feel what you feel
- Is it true that you’ll “just know” whether you want kids?
- The potential loneliness of making the decision not to have kids
- The lie of the “right” path
- Navigating the kids conversation with your partner
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